Dear Madam Temilolu,
Many thanks for your good work. Emphasis is on the girls who turn out to be good women but have issues with men. With the recent wave of spousal killings, we need to focus on boys as well and groom them into reasonable and emotionally-balanced men especially for marriage purposes. I really appreciate your good work!
Mrs. Modupe Olade
Dear Mrs. Olade,
I totally agree with you and we shall work on that in due course. God bless you ma!
Dear Aunty Temilolu,
I have been following your posts for some time. I have a younger sister who is 17 years old and in S.S.2 while I’m 24. She gave us the biggest shock of our lives two nights ago. She claimed she wanted to use the toilet but instinctively I decided to go after her as I had been observing her for a while! I noticed she was hiding something as soon as she saw me by the toilet door. I dipped my hand in her skirt when I felt a small bulge and found a handset. I went straight to my parents to show them what I saw and she claimed she bought it. However, we all know that for years, we’ve been living from hand to mouth and our parents are not educated. So, there’s no way she could afford to buy herself a phone as there was no room for savings. We can only afford to give her transport fare to school and she takes food from home. No allowance or pocket money.
When I went through the phone, I was bombarded with several love messages and home address of different guys whom I guess she had been visiting in their homes after school and possibly during school hours. I don’t know how she does this as my mum usually contacts her class teacher just to ensure she’s doing well in school. A call came through her phone that night and I demanded she pick it right in front of us. Only for the guy to say he had been waiting for her on the second street! I told her to invite the guy to our street while my parents were strategically positioned on the street. We got him and he explained how he met her, bought her a phone etc. My dad threatened to arrest him if he ever saw him around my sister again or anywhere near our house.
I saw several other contacts on her phone saved as “My heart-beat,” “My baby” etc. I know she has gone deeper than we can ever imagine even though she’s a chorister in church. Our parents were non-believers when we were young, so we were not brought up God’s way! I made mistakes too by having a boyfriend too early but I later came across a fellowship which changed me to a secondary virgin burning for God. I was in tears all through yesterday as I prayed to God to change her heart. I know we don’t have money but I know better about life and that we have glorious destinies. I have been so loving and relaxed with her just to ensure she tells me issues she could be facing as a teenager. I feel so pained about my recent discovery. Please advise me on what to do. I don’t want her to make the mistakes I made. (That is if she hasn’t made them). She’s always said she wants to become a doctor. Thanks ma!
Parents of my darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,
One of the greatest mistakes of most parents of this present generation of girls is not getting into their heads/driving God into their hearts before the society got into their souls! Since the inception of this column four years ago, the number of girls who have said anything about or sought counsel about their studies/future career doesn’t exceed four! Day in day out, I have been bombarded with messages on boyfriend issues which I most delightfully answer to because of the madness out there. The peer-pressure is so suffocating that it would take one to be a “super girl” not to drown in what appears to give these teenagers validity in today’s society! Arrant nonsense! Utter rubbish! I don’t even know what other word to use. Too many parents are living with total strangers as children. The painful thing is there’s someone whose mother is forever bemoaning her fate for ever meeting her father, yet she has already started sleeping around giving the devil grounds to confuse her and push her out of God’s wonderful plan! What a pity! There’s so much more on this coming your way!
To be continued.
